Goals. A word that has been defined & outlined through the standards of social media to describe someones 'perfection'. I have so many questions why girls comment this on photos, but they all seem to just conclude to 'why?'. Why obsess over another humans photo & call it 'goals'. & Most likely, you'll find this on photos of couples or girls showing off there body. & I'm not dissing in any way the photo itself, because as a photographer & model, I appreciate the effort, beauty & creativity that goes into capturing the shot. But my point being, you can't compare your life & hope to live up to what you see in photos. It really is only a seconds glance.
I once saw a comment from a young girl saying "I'm never going to eat again". It made my heart sink. THAT'S. NOT. RIGHT. Is society's standards so high & demanding for young girls to be subjected to look like that by means of an eating disorder? That's not healthy & that's not how it works! All it leaves it self-conscious girls who prey off of likes & compliments to make themselves feel better. But it doesn't fill the void they have. They will constantly be in a battle with themselves over what foods they eat. How do I know this? Because I was in that state of mind before. Not necessarily about social media, but I had a huge lack of confidence, & looking at 'goals' didn't help. It didn't motivate me. It just made me feel even worse that I didn't look like that.
Then I had a huge self-realization that this wasn't the life I wanted to live. I wasn't happy with myself, but I wanted to be. I told myself, I won't stand for that.. it's beyond my nature TO stand for that.
So I began my journey. I started to be active again, eat clean, & occasionally practice yoga. It didn't start to hit me until I saw & felt the positive changes that were going on with my body. I didn't feel lethargic from lack of food or too much of the bad foods I would binge on. I began to feel like I had this natural burst of energy (& I didn't even drink coffee yet!). Soon, I started to forget about the number I saw on the scale, & realized that as long as I was happy with the way I looked & felt, I'm happy.
So take back your independence. Fight for finding the inner & outer beauty in yourself, not through idolizing others. It's confidence, in the end, what helps you gain vitality. Be an inspiration to others through your work on how you benefit the Earth, words, personality, & genuine happiness that you've found through your journey of taking back your life. Not because you have a killer bod. It's taking that one moment of saying, "These eyes.. no body else in the entire universe has them. I am unique & I am beautiful." & it all starts with something small. So here's a little inspiration & soul awakening to reclaim YOU.
Being you is what defines you.
#IAmNotGoals , I am me.